It’s normal to help someone in need, yet some obstacles can get in the way of our good intentions. Would we be invading their privacy? Would it bother them or not at all?

A team led by psychologist Robin Banerjee at the University of Sussex created the Kindness Test. Some people openly admitted that they weren’t always kind, while others demonstrated a great level of kindness. Even so, several limitations stand in the way of us becoming kinder. The main reason for not doing good deeds for others is the fear of being misunderstood. But Gillian Sandstrom of the University of Sussex discovered that our anxieties about talking to strangers are often baseless and that people like it more than they think. Those who have received an act of kindness have expressed themselves as “grateful,” “loved,” “relieved,” and “pleased.” Only 1 percent of those surveyed admitted to being embarrassed.

We feel happy when we receive and give acts of kindness. Given this, we need to start seeing compassion as a strength rather than a weakness.