- beget /bih-GET/
- vice versa /VAHYS VUR-suh/
- distress /dih-STRESS/
- burn bridges /burn BRIJ-iz/
- reintegrate /ree-IN-tuh-grayt/
[verb] – to bring about
It is said that health and happiness beget each other.
[adverb] – used to say that what you have just said is also true in the opposite order
You can give food to group A and drinks to group B, or vice versa.
[verb] – to make someone feel very upset or worried
Not hearing any news about his package is distressing Jonathan.
[idiom] – if you are in a situation and you burn your boats/bridges, you destroy all possible ways of going back to that situation
Sara has decided to burn bridges with her childhood friend.
[verb] – to restore
The company doesn’t plan to reintegrate its old computer programs.
Counseling professor Suzanne Degges-White says that “Not every friendship is meant to last forever. It goes both ways.” Believe what your instinct is telling you if you have a friend who hasn’t kept up with you during the pandemic, and vice versa. Ask yourself six months from now if it would distress you if you and your friend cut communications. Shasta Nelson, a San Francisco-based author and friendship expert, agrees with Degges-White. Changes in our lives, such as changing jobs or moving places, as well as the pandemic, alter our friendship network. This is what Degges-White refers to as “friendscape”: choosing who we want to be around. Because we have a limited number of people with whom we can maintain contact, it’s natural to limit the number of friendships we have.
Our social lives and how we approach relationships have changed dramatically as a result of the pandemic. Experts advise against burning bridges for no reason, but don’t feel forced to reintegrate everyone into your life. Allow yourself and others to forgive yourself and others over the last 15 months, since the events have been unexpected.
- Have you contacted people whom you have not met since the start of the pandemic? Please tell me more about it.
- How did you react when you lost contact with an old friend?
- Would you cut communications with someone who has not talked with you for the past six months? Why or why not?
- In your opinion, why is it sometimes necessary to burn bridges?
- Do you believe that ending relationships might help you live a healthier life? Please explain your answer.