- How often do you contact your friends?
- What do you and your friends usually do when you meet?
- in touch (with someone) /in tuhch (with SUHM-wuhn)/
- gut feeling /guht FEE-ling/
- circumstance /SUR-kuhm-stans/
- network /NET-wurk/
- obligated /OB-li-gey-tuhd/
[idiom] – seeing someone or communicating with someone regularly
Have you been keeping in touch with Yuki?
[noun] – a strong belief about someone or something that cannot completely be explained and does not have to be decided by reasoning
I have a gut feeling that Nicholas is lying.
[noun] – events that change your life, over which you have no control
Due to some circumstances, they’re forced to leave the country.
[noun] – a group of people with the same interests
Harold created a group chat for a network of financial advisers.
[adjective] – feeling that you owe someone something because you are grateful for what they have done for you
Anne felt obligated to help her brother with homework after he washed the dishes for her.
Counseling professor Suzanne Degges-White says that “Not every friendship is meant to last forever.” If you have a friend you haven’t kept in touch with during the pandemic and vice versa, believe what your gut feeling is telling you. Six months from now, ask yourself if it would upset you if you and your friend no longer talk. San Francisco-based author and friendship specialist Shasta Nelson agrees. Life circumstances such as changing jobs or moving cities—and this pandemic—change our friendship network. This is what Degges-White calls “friendscape:” choosing who we want to be surrounded with. Since we have a limited range on who to keep in touch with, it’s normal to narrow the friendships we had.
The pandemic brought a drastic change to our social lives and how to approach relationships. Experts suggest to not end relationships but do not feel obligated to fit everyone back into your life, either. The last 15 months have been unexpected, so forgive yourself and others.
- What did Professor Degges-White say about friendship?
- According to the article, what must a person do if he/she has not spoken with his/her friend after six months?
- What causes our friendship network to change?
- What is “friendscape”?
- According to the article, why is it normal to narrow the friendships people had during the pandemic?
- Have you talked to people whom you have not met during the pandemic? Please tell me more about it.
- How did you react when you lost communication with an old friend?
- Would you cut communications with someone who has not talked with you for the past six months? Why or why not?
- Why do you think it is sometimes necessary to burn bridges?
- Do you agree that ending friendships can promote better health? Please explain your answer.