When you’re allowed to go out during this pandemic, you realize you haven’t spoken to several people. Should you be upset? Experts say it’s natural for friends to lose communication, and there’s no need to feel bad about it.

Counseling professor Suzanne Degges-White encourages people to believe your instinct if you and a friend haven’t talked with each other. Ask yourself six months from now if you would be upset once you end your friendship with him or her. San Francisco-based author and friendship specialist Shasta Nelson agrees. Switching jobs, moving houses, and this pandemic change our friendship network. This is what Degges-White calls “friendscape:” choosing who we want to be with. It’s perfectly normal to reduce the number of friendships we once had since we have a limited range on who to talk with since the start of the pandemic.

Experts say to not end relationships without any reason, but don’t feel forced to put people back into your life, either. Forgive yourself and others, since the last 15 months have been unexpected for everyone.